Most of us in some point in our lives confide in others...
In parts of our lives we all go through a some what upsetting, 'bad' stage, in which we may chose to bottle up or share with others - confide in them for advice or comforting. I have been through the stage - as have most people, with this issue I have entrusted upon others for advice and support.
At that moment in time, where you are the main subject and in a way 'center of attention' it makes you feel like you are being listened to. Having that person sitting in front of you, comforting you and most of all having the heart to listen means more than anything. When people see you upset and not your ordinary character, they are obliged to help you as much as they can.
In that moment when you are explaining your pain, the person attentively listens, but you may feel you need to bottle up somethings from them as you are scared their view of you may change. We never fully explain a story behind something, because if we did, we wouldn't have our own personal thoughts, we are all entitled to bottle things up. We may also keep things to ourselves as we may feel that there is nothing that can be done: it's personal and there is no advice suitable. We all have our personal perceptions of ourselves and of others - no matter how hard they try, they can never change our perceptions. We think how we think, so sometimes by telling others they can't fully understand and may doubt why your upset, as them, themselves can't see your pain.
We all deal with our emotions in different ways, but what we must remember is there is always someone out there willing to help, and you yourself are entitled to keep things to yourself if they are hard to say...
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