Arguing is overrated.

Arguing? Probably the term you hear everyday to explain someones fall out, misunderstanding or disagreement... But actually that argument would have definitely made things much worse.

I see people argue almost everyday, mostly about utter nonsense and to be honest probably for just the sake of arguing, sense of boredom or perhaps a sudden outburst into what you have felt for a long time? Don't get me wrong, I have argued with people and almost instantly afterwards, either when I turn away or go home I regret ever opening my mouth. Arguing definitely brings out a side of you that is basically trapped filled with true, slightly cynical thoughts which you have been meaning to get out but in a slightly 'calmer' way. There are arguments in friendships, relationships, domestics and war on moral and religious reasons. I have witnessed most arguments either on the news or straight in front of me. An argument to most people is probably verbal abuse getting thrown at each other, but actually an argument can be anything - an argument is behind every war, fight, revenge etc.

But do arguments actually fully resolve something? To me - No. All arguments are thoughts that are just shouted out, verbally and even physically, they are painful, unnecessary, unloving and most of all horrible. I have heard, I have even cried myself over arguments never mind how serious or petty they are, and to me they have never resolved ones unexplained or misunderstanding areas in life, they just make you dwell and in a way scream for an answer and a resolution. For instance, wars, have any really been resolved fully? There are still questions about why it happened, why so many innocent brave soldiers have been killed, to me there is one simple reason: fear. People argue either to feel like they are defending themselves but actually they are just arguing as they do not want the other person to get the better of them, to effectively 'win' when in fact you would have been the better person not to retaliate.

So perhaps arguing is part of what people do? But to me why let it be part of us, why not take things in our stride, get on with life, and not let other peoples views or thoughts argue against your own?