Can we be puzzles?

Being puzzles can mean many of things...

By being puzzles we could be explained as being confusing, a mystery or that of being incomplete and therefore not whole - having a missing piece. A puzzling person, as I often hear, is someone who confuses people, someone who you are not fully aware of who they are, what they are doing... They are a mystery in some ways.

Writing this blog post I am taking on the perspective of a puzzle being someone who is incomplete, broken... Someone who is sad in themselves, that cannot 'go on' as them they feel empty inside, they have a missing piece which can't be fulfilled or refilled. This normally occurs when someone passes away, I hear the phrase "I am incomplete without"... Him or her, that person, whoever it is, they feel as though they are stationary now without them, unable to carry on, unable to live, unable to be independent as once they were dependent on each other, caring for one another. If that person leaves have we really been taken apart? Losing our final piece, just like a jigsaw puzzle. We want to carry on living with this person, being close to that person to finish our lifes, them leaving turns into that missing piece stopping us from 'completing' 'ending' our lives with that special someone (just as a puzzle: we are near finishing the puzzle, but a piece has gone missing, that piece stops it from being fully complete - this irritates us, it makes it seem pointless to have even started the puzzle).

I do wonder whether we are all like a jigsaw puzzle. Whether we can be dependant, whether we can be just us. We all go through the stages of acceptance: indenial, realisation, grief and acceptance... Surely this puzzle can be fixed if this is true? We can't believe the person has gone, we realise the damage and the loss of that someone, we cry, we feel as though we are unable to carry on and then we realise we have to live on for that person, that person is in a safer place, a better place - we accept the loss.

Most of us get to the acceptance stage, so perhaps we shouldn't feel so incomplete? Live for today, live for that person, live for them as they wanted to live. Complete your dreams, and leave theirs behind, or follow their dreams and complete those for them... Solve their puzzle as you would yours.